Couples Therapy
Online & In-person in Arizona and online in Texas and New York
What We will Actually Work On.
When you sit across from me, we aren't just going to rehash your biggest arguments of the week or sit in an uncomfortable room while I keep score. Instead, we pull back the curtain on your daily friction to understand what is happening beneath the surface. We start by dismantling the reactive fight cycles—the ones where a tiny disagreement about chores or an open cabinet door suddenly blows up into a massive standoff because both of you are secretly feeling exhausted, unseen, or unappreciated.
From there, we look at how you handle stress as a team. High-stakes seasons like burnout or navigating the heavy, heartbreaking isolation of infertility naturally strain a marriage. It is incredibly common for one partner to hyper-focus on solving the problem while the other completely freezes or pulls away in silence. We work to de-shame these different survival blueprints so you can stop viewing each other's coping mechanisms as a personal attack. By trading defensive assumptions for genuine curiosity, we bridge that communication gap and turn your home back into a safe harbor rather than an emotional minefield.
We also focus heavily on the art of the clean-up. Every single couple is going to argue, disconnect, and push each other's buttons—that is just part of being human. The goal isn’t to become a conflict-free robot team; the goal is to master the art of the repair. I will help you build a concrete playbook for your actual life, showing you exactly how to circle back, own your part, and lower the emotional temperature before a bad day hardens into long-term resentment.
Ultimately, our work together is about moving out of the transactional roommate phase and rebuilding your alliance. We combine your lived experience with proven, evidence-based relationship science to stop the exhausting "project management" dynamic where you feel more like coworkers than romantic partners. Together, we co-create small, actionable strategies that you can start using the very same night, allowing you to stop fighting each other and start teaming up against the actual problem.
“Couples wait an average of six years of being unhappy with their relationship before getting help.”
– John Gottman
Couples therapy can help your relationship:
Move past surface-level bickering over chores, open cabinets, or daily logistics to address the deeper patterns of exhaustion and feeling unseen.
Shift your dynamic from an exhausting "you vs. me" battleground into a unified alliance where you team up against the actual problem.
Drop the impossible standard of a "perfect," fight-free relationship and focusing entirely on building a solid, reliable playbook for a quick repair.
Co-create small, actionable, and realistic boundary tweaks that you can actually implement the very same night to lower the emotional temperature at home.
Lower the stakes around physical connection so you can transition out of transactional, goal-oriented intimacy and return to playful, genuine connection.